Because destructive sexual behavior so dominates our thoughts, it is essential to our recovery that, one day at a time, we let go of that behavior. Though we are powerless over our addictions, we can learn to recover with our feet (attending meetings), our minds (praying), our fingers (dialing other members), our eyes (reading literature), and our guts (sharing our feelings), which can keep us sober one day (or one hour) at a time.
Being abstinent, we find destructive urges are diminished and occur less frequently. This, in turn allows us to see ourselves more clearly and to start building feelings of self-esteem and self-worth. In sobriety, we find “old tapes” that were set off by anger, fear, pain, frustration, guilt, obligation, etc. no longer dominate us as they used to!