The following are a series of statements from SRA members that describe their feelings and behaviors around the addiction. Do these statements apply to you? Be honest with yourself.

  • I think about sex or romantic relationships most of the time.
  • I often feel shame, regret or remorse after sexual fantasy or behavior.
  • I want to stop masturbating but I can’t.
  • I have difficulty staying monogamous in a relationship.
  • I break promises to myself to stop my unwanted sexual behavior.
  • My sexual behavior isolates me from my friends, family, etc.
  • My obsession with pornography interferes with my real relationships.
  • I obsessively sexualize people on the street.
  • I put myself at risk of sexually- transmitted diseases.
  • I’ve been afraid of my “double life” and sexual secrets being discovered.
  • I’ve spent a great deal of time or money on sex.
  • I have felt compelled to seek new sexual or romantic highs.
  • My sexual behavior has put me in dangerous situations.
  • I have hurt myself or others as a result of my sexual behavior.
  • I have engaged in any of the following: voyeurism; exhibitionism; anonymous sex; phone sex; trading for sex; paying for or being paid for sex; abusive sex.
  • I have been unable to say no to other people’s sexual advances.
  • I have risked or lost my job because of my sexual behavior.
  • I feel empty when not in a sexual or romantic relationship.
  • I feel sex is my most important need.
  • I am obsessed with romantic possibilities.
  • I flirt even when I don’t mean to.
  • I obsess about a specific person or act even though it may be painful.
  • I confuse sex with love.
  • My sexual behavior has made my life unmanageable.

Sex addiction is a self-diagnosed disease. The above statements are an aid to help you decide if you are addicted. If you have related to any of these statements, SRA may be a place where you can find help. You are not alone.