Our fellowship is a Twelve Step program based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous. Our purpose is to recover from sexual addiction and to help others recover. For us, "to recover" means ending our compulsive and destructive sexual behavior, healing the emotional wounds that fostered the behavior and healing the damage caused to us and others by our behavior. In SRA we learn to integrate sexuality into our lives in a healthy way.

Our addiction was like a secret room, a very lonely place where we isolated ourselves. This place felt like a necessary part of ourselves, but the loneliness and fear could never be shared. The further we went into our room, the more it became like a cell.

As sex addicts, most of us are deeply ashamed of our compulsive behavior and this creates even thicker walls between us and others. Our addiction caused us to withdraw, so we lost meaningful contact with people. We struggled to keep our addiction a secret, especially from those we loved and who loved us. But this secret world was killing us.

How can our program help if an addict's most vigorous efforts have failed? Our program offers what is not in any addict's power to provide for themselves: communion with others, mutual understanding, help from other addicts, compassion and fellowship. Many members discover that the fellowship and love found in meetings is a power that affects their lives more compellingly than their individual strivings.

When newcomers attend their first meetings, they are often astounded to hear others sharing the details of their addiction openly, thoroughly, and honestly. Newcomers realize that they have found a place where they can open that room inside themselves, for the first time sharing honestly with other people. What they share about themselves is treated with respect and compassion. They are entirely welcomed by a fellowship of men and women. The healthy desire for connection with others, blocked for so long by the secret, shameful world, finally finds a place of fulfillment.

In SRA we learn about the Twelve Steps, which are suggested as an important part of our program of recovery. They are simple, thoughtful tools that, when applied with sincerity, demand a thorough appraisal of our addiction, our relationship with ourselves and others, and our spiritual nature. The Steps provide a framework for a housecleaning of the self which leads to an emotional and spiritual renewal.

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